A few months ago, I Went To An All Girl Play Party… And It Was Amazing. So much has happened since then! This weekend, I went to my very first snuggle party… and yes, snuggle parties totally exist if you’ve never heard of them.
What’s the difference between a play party and a snuggle party?
At play parties, people can actually have sex (with protection). You might see intercourse/penetration, oral sex with dental dams, fingering, etc. At snuggle parties, you can make out, kiss and do things with sexual energy, and it’s clothing optional, but there aren’t activities where any vaginal fluids or seminal fluids are exposed (no activities that would require using protection).
Hit me baby, one more time
Just like the play party, the snuggle party also took us through an exercise where we gathered into one of two groups, took turns standing in the center, introduced ourselves, and shared 1) something we would like and 2) something we wouldn’t like to experience that evening.
Popular requests were things like, “Oh, it’d be sweet to get a really awesome back massage.” and “I’d love to be tenderly caressed all over my body.”
I got up and said, “I’m kind of kinky, so if anyone’s up for it, I like being slapped in the face.”
I sat back down.
Image Credit: Vixen Photography / Scott Saw
I was slightly mortified by the silence. Did I go too far? I’d just thrown an oddball request out there while everyone else was talking about gazing into each other’s eyes with love.
It turned out to be totally cool, though. The moral of this story is that if you want to get smacked upside the face, you should totally ask for it, because how else will the universe know what you want unless you tell a bunch of strangers about your kinks?
Ask and you shall receive
Over the course of the evening, a few different people helped create incredibly hot experiences that included holding me down, pulling my hair, controlling my breathing, and yes, thwacking me in the face.
One of my really good girlfriends alternated between slapping me fiercely and kissing me on the mouth and all over my body. Then, she laid me across her lap and gave me a next-level spanking still wearing rings on her hands!
High five to your face!
A woman I didn’t know approached me to ask what my fascination was with being slapped in the face. She was so curious to know, what in the world would lead a person to try it? And, what do people even enjoy about getting pummeled like a boxing bag? I dutifully answered her questions.
I like the shock of it and the whole taboo. I mean, you’re not supposed to slap peeps in the face. And it’s counterintuitive, because in most contexts, the typical response to getting slapped would be anger or feeling insulted… not enjoyment.
I like not knowing when a slap is coming, because I could be kissing someone or whatever, and then get slapped all of a sudden. I like the surprise, and it’s not about getting knocked out, but it’s just a quick sting that’s gone in an instant.
She was totally down to try it, so we took turns on each other. If you didn’t know any better, you might have thought it was the ultimate girl-on-girl cat fight.
She ended up getting super turned on by it. Her response to it took her by such surprise that it left her wondering what else is out there that she hasn’t tried or would never imagine could be a turn-on but could actually be an amazing experience for her.
She closed her eyes while she waited for me to slap her, but I started out by gently caressing her cheeks and face for a bit. Then, I slapped her fast and immediately caressed her cheeks again.
She mentioned afterwards that she was really surprised by the soft touch and that it made it such a sweet experience for her, because she knew that the intention wasn’t malicious but was truly intended to bring pleasure.
She approached it the same way with me. She slapped me and then immediately put her cheek against mine, which had an incredibly soothing effect.
Eyes wide open
Image Credit: Vixen Photography / Scott Saw
During the evening, I also had an intense, powerful experience in a submissive role. It involved an introduction to breath play, plus my usual faves (being pinned down at my wrists, getting my face and breasts slapped, hair pulled, neck held, to name a few).
What made this the most intense dom/sub experience I’ve had up to now is the more frequent and steady eye contact throughout it all.
He noticed that whenever I closed my eyes, it decreased the level of intensity that I experienced. So, he told me to keep my eyes open and keep looking into his eyes. The eye contact amplified every sensation, and I felt an incredibly high amount of intensity in my body.
I want to go there
It was such a challenge for me because my natural impulse is to close my eyes when feelings get super intense, but it was so worth it. I couldn’t close my eyes and drift off or lose focus. I had to be so present and fully experience everything happening in the moment.
He told me that there’s a world of so much possibility beyond what I just experienced, and that he had wanted to show me the door to that world. What I’d just experienced was barely scratching the surface.
“I want to go there,” I told him.
“You will,” he said. “You go there very easily. You surrendered beautifully.”